19. What is Important in a Relationship

Some recent events have made me ponder on the subject of meaningful relationships. What are some key elements that make a relationship work? First I feel that both sides have to be equal. For example I cannot simply fail at everything and have my partner be perfect. That would drive me insane. If I were to text someone and they got mad because I didn't call them despite the fact that they weren't picking up the phone, I would be somewhat upset. Not everything can be my fault. It takes two people to make a relationship work. One person cannot simply change to meet the other person's expectations while the other stays the same.

Another big point I feel inclined to point out is the ability to compromise. No relationship is perfect. There will be conflicts of interest. People are not all the same. This is why people have discussions in which they work out their feelings and get over their difficulties. Another big issue is how people resolve their issues. I don't think someone has to yell in order to get a point across. People should be able to calmly resolve disagreements in a relationship. Never should a disagreement get physical. If you are a girl and you read this pay attention. NEVER EVER EVER LET A MAN HIT YOU! If there is one thing in this world that I find most base and disgusting it is when men abuse their wives. I have watched as women continue to live with men that destroy them in every way possible and I feel sick. If your man is physically abusing you walk away. It won't get better and he doesn't deserve to be with you. I won't even bother to comment further about that. There is no situation that makes it OK for him to do that to you.

Another thing that is important is the physical attraction. While this may not be the most important thing, it does play an important part in letting two people come together. Eventually other things happen and physical beauty is replaced with inner appreciation. We all grow old but love doesn't have to die with our good looks. Everything is there to get us to the point where we discover what is special about a person. That is something that stands the test of time. We need to get to that point where we can discover these things in each other.

When these things come together we can find true love. Equality, compromise, temperance, and attraction all come together to create something special. Granted there are many other things that can add to this, but for me personally I think these are the most important.